You’re Not Stuck Because You’re Lazy - You’re Stuck Because You’re Protecting Yourself
“Why can’t I just do the thing?”
It’s a question that comes up when everything feels harder than it should. You’ve got the plan. You know what needs to happen. But somehow, you end up doing everything else instead.
Not because you’re lazy, not because you’re disorganised - but because part of you is trying to protect you.
Avoidance, freeze, procrastination - these aren’t personality flaws, they’re patterns. Often shaped by fear, and usually running quietly in the background.
Fear of doing it wrong, fear of being visible, fear of what might change if it actually works.
Most of the time, you’re not thinking about any of that - but your subconscious is. It's doing exactly what it’s meant to do - keep things feeling familiar, predictable … safe.
This isn’t about beating yourself up. It’s about understanding what’s really going on - and learning how to understand it, so you can move through it.
When You’re Doing So Much - But Still Feel Stuck
There’s nothing more frustrating than putting in all the effort - thinking, planning, learning, working - and still not being able to move forward.
You’re not sitting around doing nothing, you’re probably doing a lot, but somehow, the thing that actually moves the needle is still untouched, still waiting for you to press ‘Go’.
That’s when it starts to feel like you’re stuck.
Not because you’re doing nothing - but because nothing seems to be moving.... and you can’t work out why.
In these moments, it’s easy to feel lost. You’ve tried to make sense of it, maybe even pushed through a few times. But if this keeps happening, there’s probably a reason - and it’s not a flaw in your character.
Often, when you can’t move forward, it’s because a part of you is trying to keep you safe - because deep down, that next step feels risky.
That might sound strange, especially if the thing you want feels exciting or important, but your subconscious isn’t judging your goals - it’s just scanning for risk, and anything unfamiliar - visibility, change, success, failure - can feel risky.
That’s why you might freeze, or suddenly clean the kitchen, or get really into perfecting the small stuff that doesn’t really move the needle.
It's not because you don’t care, but because some part of you believes that staying here - where it’s familiar, where nothing changes - is safer than taking the next step.
If this sounds familiar, it’s worth looking a little deeper - because often, what looks like resistance on the surface has something else underneath it.
What That “Stuck” Might Really Be About
Sometimes the thing that’s keeping you stuck isn’t obvious.
It’s not always a lack of time, or energy, or even clarity. It’s that there’s a part of you trying to protect you from what might happen if you actually do the thing.
That part of you believes that to move forward would mean stepping into something scary or unknown. It might even believe that the result of doing the thing will cause so much change or upheaval that it’s safer to stay where you are.
There are so many underlying fears - some conscious, some not - that sit beneath procrastination:
Perfectionism
Imposter syndrome
Fear of success
Fear of failure
Fear of judgment
Fear of being visible
Fear of doing it wrong
Some of these you’re aware of , some are deeper, some are energetic - most are subconscious.
Sometimes it’s fear of standing out - of shifting the dynamic in your friendships or peer group. What if doing the thing brings more clients, more attention, more money… and that changes how people see you?
Maybe success feels like it will trap you. Maybe having too many clients would feel more like being imprisoned than free - like the business that was meant to give you more space is now running the show.
These fears don’t always make sense on paper, but the part of you running the show isn’t always operating from logic. It’s responding from protection - from what it knows, and what it’s had to navigate in the past.
Until you get curious about what’s behind the “if I do this, then...” you’ll keep circling the thing - without ever quite doing it.
You’re not broken. You’re protecting yourself.
Getting stuck doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It usually means there’s something worth understanding first.
Because once you know what’s underneath it - what that protective part of you is afraid of - it gets easier to move. Not because you’ve pushed harder, but because it doesn’t feel as risky anymore.
This isn’t always something you can plan your way through, and it’s rarely something you can think your way out of - but with the right support, things that felt tangled can suddenly feel clear.
That’s what sessions like MindClarity and Energy Clearing are designed for. To help you untangle what’s going on beneath the surface - so your next step doesn’t feel like a fight.
Whether it’s mental fog, emotional weight, or something energetic you just can’t put your finger on - this is the place to unravel it.
But even if you’re not ready for that yet, know this:
You’re not lazy.
You’re not behind.
And you’re not broken.
You’re responding to something real, and the fact that you’re noticing it? - that’s progress!
Hi, I’m Juliette.
Business Alignment Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist - and full-time slave to a very spoilt whippet.
I’m on a mission to help you build a business that actually fits you - not the other way around.
Hi, I’m Juliette.
Business Alignment Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist - and full-time slave to a very spoilt whippet.
I’m on a mission to help you build a business that actually fits you - not the other way around.
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